Failing Forward

Happy holidays Babes!

As you may know, we announced a Winter Informal Holiday Party a couple weeks back. It is with the heaviest heart that I had to announce that we cancelled the Winter Informal.

Hello, Babes! Thanksgiving is over which means holiday season has officially begun. That means lots of celebrations with friends, family, co workers, neighbors and all your favorite Babes. This is truly one of the most wonderful times of the year. In honor of this joyful season, we announced a Winter Informal Holiday Party a couple weeks back. A pink pajama party complete with multiple women owned caterers, bartenders, djs and photographers, complete with all the fun instagram backdrops and interactions we could dream up; we definitely dreamed big. Unfortunately, ticket sales has not met our break-even budget and it is time to announce that we are cancelling the Winter Informal. It was not calculated into our thought process that $65 party tickets would have to compete with several significantly lower priced holiday parties.

With so many other events happening the same week, we were unable to capture enough of the market to keep the event alive. To all of the disappointed Babes who purchased ticket, we hope that you to still got out to some of these amazing holiday parties that we had so much fun at!

12/5 - Brightside Disco - Brightside Boutique at The Charles
12/6 - Mistletoe and Martinis - Shoptini and Hello Addie at Bookmakers

From day one, it has been our intention to host inclusive gatherings for all women in Baltimore. Our goal will always be to provide a safe space for the women to come together and network while doing something fun. Whether that is dancing in your pjs, doing yoga brunches or learning about how to build a brand, Bmore Babes is here to develop a community for all of us to interact, grow together and support one another. Today, we are doing a little growing ourselves. It will always be our privilege to be honest with you. We are obviously disappointed to cancel our event, but hopeful that this will encourage other Babes to embrace their "failures" and find the silver lining. In moments like this, we should remind each other of the tremendous opportunity that "failing forward" provides.

For lessons on treating failures as successes, we turned to our takeover with Kate Campbell, owner of Love and Luster Florals.

Kate did an amazing takeover (you should really go check it out if you missed it) and provided us just the right encouragement when we needed it. She said, "I think as women, we are really instilled that we need to make everything perfect - there's a lot of pressure to make things 100%polished and there's a few issues with that. It takes too long, there's way too much pressure on you, and since you don't know if its going to work, you could possibly be wasting a lot of time. The next time you have a project, I urge you to work it til its 50% done - so that its good enough - and then put it out there. Get the feedback and see if your original idea worked. If it doesn't, tweak it and take it from there. When you work like this, you can fail fast, which can be really valuable as it shows you what direction to be in to be successful and you didn't waste weeks working on a project that ultimately wasn't going to succeed. If you really want to get into this and dive deeper, I suggest you read anything by Dr. Brené Brown."

So, with that in mind, we hear you Babes! We learned a lot about our community, and are plotting 2019 quietly. Stay tuned!

Special thanks to all the vendors who were involved in our plan and donated so much of their time and services to the cause:

Mimi Washington, Habitat Seya Wellness Center @habitatseya

Kourtney Fix, Full Circle Artisan Palace @fullcircle_artisanpalace

Shelly and Christi, Top Shelf Mobile Bartending @topshelfmobilebartending

Jessica Reyes, Roll Bmore @rollbmore

Rosie Hicks, @djrosieh

Alexis Wilkins, @living_alexis

Ashley Gallagher, @healthyliingwithash

Holly B. Murphy, Invisible Crowne @hollybmurphy

Kristi Stevens, @shoptini

Angela Claridge, @just.likeheaven @angelaclaridgehair

Thank you Babes. We are looking forward to the future, together.

I would like to leave you with a quote about failing forward that has helped me on my darkest days:

“In life, the question is not if you will have problems, but how you are going to deal with your problems. If the possibility of failure were erased, what would you attempt to achieve?

The essence of man is imperfection. Know that you're going to make mistakes. The fellow who never makes a mistake takes his orders from one who does. Wake up and realize this: Failure is simply a price we pay to achieve success.

Achievers are given multiple reasons to believe they are failures. But in spite of that, they persevere. The average for entrepreneurs is 3.8 failures before they finally make it in business.

When achievers fail, they see it as a momentary event, not a lifelong epidemic.

Procrastination is too high a price to pay for fear of failure. To conquer fear, you have to feel the fear and take action anyway. Forget motivation. Just do it. Act your way into feeling, not wait for positive emotions to carry you forward.

Recognize that you will spend much of your life making mistakes. If you can take action and keep making mistakes, you gain experience.

Life is playing a poor hand well. The greatest battle you wage against failure occurs on the inside, not the outside.

Why worry about things you can't control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?

Handicaps can only disable us if we let them. If you are continually experiencing trouble or facing obstacles, then you should check to make sure that you are not the problem.

Be more concerned with what you can give rather than what you can get because giving truly is the highest level of living.

Embrace adversity and make failure a regular part of your life. If you're not failing, you're probably not really moving forward.

Everything in life brings risk. It's true that you risk failure if you try something bold because you might miss it. But you also risk failure if you stand still and don't try anything new.

The less you venture out, the greater your risk of failure. Ironically the more you risk failure — and actually fail — the greater your chances of success.

If you are succeeding in everything you do, then you're probably not pushing yourself hard enough. And that means you're not taking enough risks. You risk because you have something of value you want to achieve.

The more you do, the more you fail. The more you fail, the more you learn. The more you learn, the better you get.

Determining what went wrong in a situation has value. But taking that analysis another step and figuring out how to use it to your benefit is the real difference maker when it comes to failing forward. Don't let your learning lead to knowledge; let your learning lead to action.

The last time you failed, did you stop trying because you failed, or did you fail because you stopped trying?

Commitment makes you capable of failing forward until you reach your goals. Cutting corners is really a sign of impatience and poor self-discipline.

Successful people have learned to do what does not come naturally. Nothing worth achieving comes easily. The only way to fail forward and achieve your dreams is to cultivate tenacity and persistence.

Never say die. Never be satisfied. Be stubborn. Be persistent. Integrity is a must. Anything worth having is worth striving for with all your might.

If we look long enough for what we want in life we are almost sure to find it. Success is in the journey, the continual process. And no matter how hard you work, you will not create the perfect plan or execute it without error. You will never get to the point that you no longer make mistakes, that you no longer fail.

The next time you find yourself envying what successful people have achieved, recognize that they have probably gone through many negative experiences that you cannot see on the surface.

Fail early, fail often, but always fail forward”

Love, Light, & Happy Holidays,


Hope Seidl